Having the right frame of mind for success is half the battle won. It’s what tides you through hardships, roadblocks, obstacles, and everything else you might encounter on the yellow brick road to your dreams. And while it may seem that some people (like those with type-A personalities) just naturally have this particular frame of mind, the reality is that everyone can learn to cultivate the right beliefs and attitudes for learning, growth, and eventual success.
Most people, though, don’t stop and question themselves enough to even realise how they’re holding themselves back. Success is something that just drops into your lap one day as you’re casually sitting at your desk; it takes time, effort, and a good strategy to precipitate it. To begin with, though, it’s crucial to look at how your own false beliefs are causing self-sabotage and keeping you away from your goals at work and in life. To that end, here are 4 commonly held false beliefs that thwart your personal growth.
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Here’s the thing: time management isn’t about time at all. In fact, it’s more a matter of deciding what and where your priorities are than anything else. Where daily and weekly schedules are concerned, it often seems like there’s not enough time to fit in all the things you need to do, all the people you want to spend time with, all the skills you want to learn, and all the recreational activities you wish you could partake in.
You probably end up hearing yourself say “I don’t have time” more times than you’d like. As tired and cliche as the line is, though, it’s true that everyone has the same 24 hours a day; the only difference is what we make time for and what we don’t.
Negative feedback can be a hard pill to swallow, even for the thickest-skinned amongst us. When the criticism is levelled at a particularly fundamental aspect of your personality, though, many of us often default to resignation. We simply shrug it away by saying “it’s just how I am.” The reality is that you think you don’t need to change.
Such flippancy doesn’t bode well for growth; without even admitting to ourselves that there’s a problem in the first place, no positive behaviour change can take place. If, for example, you’ve always been a relatively frank person, you might take offence if you’re asked to be more tactful with your words at work.
Instead of finding out how your words or behaviour may have inadvertently upset one of your co-workers, you choose to insulate yourself from the criticism, but also to isolate yourself from growth.
It’s easy to fall into the trap of low self-esteem. When you don’t believe you can excel at a given task, the cost of failure seems to loom larger over you than it actually is. Subsequently, it amplifies your fear of failing and scares you further away from taking the risk and putting yourself out there.
What most people don’t realise is it’s a never-ending cycle. Because you don’t believe in yourself, you sabotage your own growth by abstaining from growth opportunities. Missing out on these opportunities confirms that you stay stagnant instead of moving forward in your learning. As the saying goes, “you don’t have t be great to start, but you have to start to be great.”
So many people treat self-motivation as though there were a secret key to a secret lock that has to be found before it can be availed upon as and when you wish. The idea is that once you find a way to be self-motivated, you’ll never run out of it; it is a cure-all that will catapult you into the company of A-listers and top performers everywhere.
The thing is, though, self-motivation is a tricky puzzle. What drives one person won’t drive another. What’s more, our motivations never really stay the same over time; they tend to change as we go through different phases in our lives.
The simple truth is that self-motivation takes a lot of work, and that self-discipline, though less glamorous and less popular a pursuit, is just as important. Motivation tends to ebb and flow, but self-discipline is what ensures consistency throughout the process.